Well, there’s a lot of them. But, my (bio) girls only have a relationship with a couple of their siblings. I am the “reason” for the non-relationship with one of their siblings and two other siblings have decided they don’t want a relationship with any of us, including any of the others siblings. Then there are relationships that aren’t close but, they do communication with each other just on social media.
The best sibling relationship they have is with the oldest kid my husband had with the ex-wife. Her and the girls will send FB & Instagram reels to each other in a group text all week. Usually…they are about their dad and I. How crazy we are or how ridiculous we are as grandparents! My husband and I have now joined the group chat and it has become quite entertaining! The newest trend is reels of mom/grandma taking gummies before she joins the family for dinner, shopping or anything…we have all laughed so hard!
Unfortunately, the sibling’s relationships have not always been the best. The ex-wife did everything in her power to keep the older kids away from the younger ones. They grew up hearing “They are not your siblings. They are nothing to you!” She even got to the oldest son & daughter when they were younger telling them the same, she is not their mother nor did she have a relationship with them, she just didn’t want them to have a relationship with us or their siblings. She didn’t even allow the kids that were hers to have a relationship with the older ones.
We now have a relationship with both of the older kids. It’s not as good as it could be but, we do have a relationship with them. The girls have them both on social media and they keep up with each other. My husband and I have a relationship with the oldest son, mostly on social media and we will message with him once in a while. He has a family and works a ton. So, it’s not a weekly thing.
The relationship with his sister has been rocky for a while now. She blames her dad, my husband, for a lot of her troubles, her grandmother kept her as far away from him as possible and never allowed him to have a relationship with her while she was growing up. Then we got a call one day from a case worker in the state she lived in to learn she was pregnant at 16. It was a mess. She is doing great now! Mom of two, with her husband since high school and happy!
I’ve been asked in the past if we have a relationship with my husband’s step-daughter. We do not! Haven’t in a very long time and unfortunately, do not see it happening in the future. I will leave it at that!
Now, if you ask my girls how many siblings they have..they say seven. They count the step-daughter because she was in their lives when they were younger. She was actually there when my oldest was born, she was living with us at the time and demanded to be in the delivery room…she didn’t stay for the whole delivery...Haha!
Yes, I said seven siblings. So, there are a total of eight kids. One of them being the stepdaughter. There is not contact with the oldest, with any of the family. No contact with the second son, the ex-wife made sure of that. The rest we have a relationship with in some way.
The ex-wife did everything in her power to keep the kids separated from their other siblings. And that is something I will never ever understand. All it did was hurt them and kept them from having a long lasting relationship with each other. What kind of mother does that? Who can call themselves a “good mom” all while keeping the kids away from each other?
I haven’t spoken to my own brother in five years, by my own choice! And it still hurts. It kills me some days that we will never have a relationship again. So, to see a mother willingly do this to siblings is completely unacceptable! It shows how much of a narcissist she really is! How much everything she does is about her feeling and not her children’s….
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