I’m gonna try not to cuss in this one, but Fuckin A!! The ex-wife started this bullshit game in 2010, not long after she moved to NY and we still lived in FL. My husband did give permission, in court, for her to move with the kids. Only the two younger kids moved with her, her oldest was living with her grandfather at the time.
The ex-wife had mentioned adoption once or twice after her and her husband got married. Of course, my husband ignored it and made it clear he would not be signing anything to allow this to happen. She would make remarks about it once in a while but she did finally drop it shortly after. It was something she would never actually let go.
The ex-wife’s father-in-law passed, he left his towing company to his son (ex-wife’s husband). Unfortunately, the business went under about two years later. That is when the ex-wife started talking about moving to NY because her husband was having issues finding a good job. It wasn’t something my husband really wanted to sign off on but, he also wanted what was best for the kids. And allowing them to move so that the ex-wife and her husband could have a clean slate, better opportunity at jobs was what my husband thought was best for the kids.
He was wrong! Things for the kids did not get better. It was only a couple short years later that the middle kid moved out and went no contact at 16/17 years old. For her own sanity and safety, both mentally and physically, she knew she had to get away from her mother.
The next time she brought adoption back up, she acted like it wasn’t even up for discussion, she had made the decision and that was that! She had already cut off contact between the kids and my husband. So, I guess she figured since he wasn’t speaking to them he would just sign his rights over for her husband to adopt them and not bat an eye. She continued to e-mail and pretty much demand that he sign the papers.
In almost every e-mail she sent she would say that the kids wanted this, they were supposedly the ones that had brought it up to her. She said they just wanted to get the adoption done so that they could move on with their family. They didn’t want to have anything to do with him and didn’t want to have the same last name anymore.
In June of 2014 she e-mailed again saying she had an attorney that was going to contact my husband to get the papers to him for him to sign for the adoption by Step-parent. My husband didn’t respond right away to that e-mail so, she e-mailed again and again. While she is e-mailing him, he was forwarding the e-mails to his daughter about the adoption. His daughter had moved out of the ex-wife’s house the year before and was no contact with her mother.
She was adamant she absolutely did not want to be adopted by the Step-father and would fight it any way she could. Of course, my husband told her that he would not be signing the papers so she wouldn’t have to fight it, he wasn’t going to allow it to happen. She said that her mother, a couple years before this e-mail, had said that she would soon be adopted by step-father because that’s what she (ex-wife) wanted. Not what the kids wanted but what the ex-wife wanted.
The kid even said she didn’t feel like the ex-wife’s husband even wanted to adopt them. She said he never said he wanted to and she remembered a fight about it where he had told the ex-wife he wasn’t going to adopt them. So, again this was something she wanted and she was going to some how make it happen however she had too. Just like she did when she signed my husband’s name to her daughter’s birth certificate.
After my husband spoke to the kid and she said she did not want to be adopted, he told the ex-wife he would not be signing the papers and the kids would always have his last name. She of course LOST IT! And swore that she would make sure they got adopted by her husband weather he signed the papers or not.
Well, the adoption never happened. I can only assume her husband wouldn’t be apart of her fraud. Haha! She did however change the youngest kids last name, just shortly after he turned 18 she electronically filed the papers with the court. And from what we understand, his girlfriend at the time reached out to another family member, he did not want the name change but the ex-wife was using it against him.
What we had been told was she was telling him that if he didn’t sign the papers and go to the court date to change his name, she was going to take his car and kick him out of the house. He was still a couple months away from graduating high school. I can’t say I am surprised by this, this is what she has done for years against anyone that wasn’t giving her what she wanted. She would threaten them, start lies about them and turn as many people as she could against them.
I don’t know that she’s ever been diagnosed but, all the signs of being a narcissist are there. Personality disorder..maybe! Bi-polar..I see that too. She’ll never see a therapist to find out, I mean she didn’t even let her kids go see a therapist when they needed it!!
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