Before the divorce was finalized, pick-up/drop offs were a little smoother, very little but I guess it still counts. After the divorce was finalized….shit got so much worse than I could have imagined it would! I seriously had no clue how bad it would get, how absolutely INSANE it would get.
I should have had some kind of an idea of how things would go after seeing how crazy the ex-wife was already acting. There was writing on the wall, so to speak, I guess I was just hopeful that the ex-wife would mature some after acting like a teenager in high school for almost two years. I was completely wrong!
About four months before she filed the divorce, the ex-wife filed a restraining order, it was denied the first time. So, of course she re-filed it with more lies and it was granted. But, only for a short time because it was thrown out during the court hearing. Three short months later she filed again, added the kids as “victims” and got a different judge, it was granted for a yr. It was ordered that the exchange of the kids would be done at the local Police Department.
That only lasted about two months..she showed up one evening absolutely losing her shit screaming that it was “Too much and ridiculous” to meet at the Police Department..which she DEMANDED to be court ordered in the restraining order she fought so hard to get for months. At that point she started demanding that my husband pick the kids up and drop them off at her house when it was his weekend.
That was a shit show! A complete fucking shit show! He would show up to get the kids and they wouldn’t be home. She would text and say they would be late but, then never show up. She would have an excuse as to why he couldn’t have the kids. While all this is happening and he is trying to see his kids, she is telling them that he never showed up…or he called and said he couldn’t come get them.
When she was at home and he got to get the kids, there was some kind of scene or she would try to start a fight with him. There was one weekend he just got back in the truck and came home without the kids. The ex-wife started a fight and was making such a scene that the neighbors came outside. The kids were crying and he felt like him trying to take them was just going to make things worse for them. And unfortunately from experience, we knew it would for sure make it worse on them.
She continued to do this for a couple of months, until my husband finally got in front of a judge for the divorce and the judge told her she could no longer keep the kids from him. She was pissed! Cried and tried telling the judge that he was abusive to the kids, she was worried that he was going to hurt them or kidnap them. The judge wasn’t having it because she could not provide any proof of her ridiculous claims.
Surprisingly, there were no problems getting the kids for a while…then our daughter was born and she absolutely lost her shit again. Our daughter was about five months old before we started seeing the kids again. And we had to fight for that in court. So as retaliation, she wanted it to be court order to that pick-ups and drop offs would be done back at the Police Department. Again, that only last a short time.
At this point, it was a continuous fight to see the kids and she was making it so bad, even the kids started telling my husband that they didn’t want to come see him. We both felt that it was starting to be detrimental to the kids to keep fighting, it was becoming abusive in our eyes. We never wanted it to get that bad and we tried to keep it from getting that way but, she was relentless!
Anytime my husband would try to call and talk to the kids, she would either ignore the calls or answer screaming at him. She even had the kids answer crying telling him that they didn’t want to talk to him, all while she was in the background screaming at them. If we saw them out in public, she would immediately start getting loud and making a scene. It was extremely embarrassing, for us and the kids. She seemed to enjoy it and find it funny when the kids started to cry.
We made one last ditch in court to see the kids, we filed a petition for contempt of court and won. Or so we thought. Because the ex-wife didn’t actually follow the new court order, at all. In any way. Ever. She continued to keep the kids from my husband for the next four years, until her oldest daughter ran away and she refused to allow her back into her house and we got a call from the Sheriffs office a county over from us. That’s a while story in itself….
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